Relationship: I saw these things and found out that they were
the reasons how we became fit to each other and why we stay this longer. These are
the lesson I’ve learned in a relationship.
1. Both of us will choose to buy more
experiences like travels and adventures than things.
Cause life is short… let’s make memories. Money is not an issue. If that
would gonna be a priceless moment for both of you, make out the best of it.
Even though we’re full of trials it’s important to make him feel that
life is going to be lighter if you’d laugh at it together… traveling in
different places at your first time is an amazing journey especially when you’re
with your love one. First times are the most memorable ones. You’ll know him more
if and discover more about him if you make adventures together. You’ll
appreciate his smiles. It’s like walking on the beach and you’re just
reminiscing the old days or how both of you have met. Sometimes having that
discussion together makes your relationship stronger. Because you open up some thoughts
and you dream with plans together. So spend time while you’re young and strong.
2. Thankful and contented for what we have
now.
I grew up without asking anything that I want from my parents. Like toys,
foods, dress… ‘cause they’ve thought me
how to be contented in life and for everything that I have now. They always
told me there are children right now who don’t experience the kind of life that
you have, those children on the street with no foods to eat, no dress to wear,
no home to live. And as I grow up, I have their words.
As a girlfriend, sometimes we are looking for gifts and flowers. But we
didn’t see the good things that he made for us. Instead of asking for something
you want, see what you have. Be thankful and contented. Relationship is a
give-and-take process. And when you’re too much worried about the things you
don’t have. Sometimes we are still searching it from other people. Then conflicts
will enter into your relationship because you’re already lack of understanding
about it. It may also cause break up when you’re not contented because it only
means that you’re not happy anymore. And sometimes the reasons why you’re
looking for other things that he cannot give is… you found it in other person. You’re
falling in love with someone else. But what if that person wouldn’t love you
back? You’ll be sorry of losing the one who really cares. You’ll miss him and
soon you’ll realize things get harder because you are not contented. What if he
didn’t give you chance and he found better too? Before it’s too late realize
first.
3. Long patience
Without this, how can you explain? If you want to say something and he’ll
tell you to stop or he’ll not listen. Having long patience is a blessing if one
of you in a relationship had this. And we’re lucky that we both know its
importance.
I think my personal experience about this that I can share with you is
about being childish. I’m the eldest among my siblings but I act like a child
sometimes. And he’s always telling me to be mature in some ways. And look who’s
talking to me that way…. the youngest in their family. He showed his patience
and thought me how to be more serious in our relationship. There are times that
I’m late when we have to meet, he comes first always. That’s why I’m lucky to
have him because even if I’m too late, he’s still smiling right there even if
it’s an hour already.
4. Respect each other’s decision
In a
relationship, you can’t decide things alone. That’s why it’s a bit different
from being single cause when you’re single you have your own ways and plans. If
you’re in a relationship you have to ask his decision or if he’ll agree with
yours.
We respect
each other’s decision by looking at the good side and benefits of it. Like asking,”are
you going to be happy with that?”I remember when I decided to work in a far
place, He told me that if it’s for my family then go for it, grab that
opportunity. So I did! It made us stronger though.
5. You explain, I’ll listen attitude
This has something to do with long patience and respecting each other’s
decision. If someone made a mistake or unexpectedly hurt, say sorry. If you
made decisions without his knowledge then explain and he must listen to you. It’s
important to have an open mind in this situation. Then if he’s not ready to
listen, give time. It takes time. Maybe you hurt him with that bad.
In some circumstances, there are things that we need to explain and understand
at the same time. We have to think how the relationship works by that. As I have
said earlier, it’s a give and take. Be open, and be understanding. But in our
relationship he chose to say things earlier and he ask my permission first if
he can go to the birthday party or any occasion. That’s why it’s lighter. We have
that practice already.
More topics to be continued….
I love
his family, he loves mine.
We save a date
Believe in promises
Dream together
Appreciate efforts
Communicate daily
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